As an INTJ (T is for thinker), it is unfathomable to me how the "feelers" (xxFx) can judge Terri to be guilty based on public opinion and how they feel about her.
As a Thinker, I base my opinions and theories on facts and observations, not feelings. A good overview of the type indicators http://www.personalitypathways.com/type_inventory.html
Thinking Characteristics Instinctively search for facts and logic in a decision situation. Naturally notices tasks and work to be accomplished. Easily able to provide an objective and critical analysis. Accept conflict as a natural, normal part of relationships with people. |
Feeling Characteristics Instinctively employ personal feelings and impact on people in decision situations Naturally sensitive to people needs and reactions. Naturally seek consensus and popular opinions. Unsettled by conflict; have almost a toxic reaction to disharmony. |
Feelers are basing their opinion that Terri is guilty based on their feelings while thinkers see there is no factual basis to state that Terri is guilty since there have been no facts yet given in this case.
The thinkers should pity the feelers because the feelers cannot help believing their feelings are truth. The feelers tend to be more gullible than the thinkers1. They are the ones that fall for the Nigerian 419 scams (send them your bank info and they will give you a 1/3 of the billion dollars their uncle needs to get out of an African country, etc.) and they tend to believe things because of their feelings. If a thinker saw the scam, they would wonder why someone would need help to get the money out of the country and how the scammer picked their email address to send a cold call "confidential" email to.
Feelers cannot change. They will continue to believe nonsense they choose to believe if they feel it is right. It would not matter if 100% of the facts contradict their feelings - they will go with their feelings 99.9% of the time. Feelers tend to become codependents easier than the thinkers and will believe everything a narcissist says if it goes with what they feel is right. Feelers become sock puppets much easier than thinkers do.
Thinkers, on the other hand, will go with whatever the facts support. If they find the facts no longer support their position, they go with whatever position supported by the facts. This can be mind boggling to a feeler that will back their feelings 100% in spite of what the facts are. Thinkers do not become sock puppets - they defend their position based on facts even if everyone else disagrees with them. Conflict is natural to a thinker because they won't go along with popular opinion (especially of the feelers) when the facts do not support it. The thinkers become the scapegoats of the narcissists and the narcissist's sock puppets because the thinker does not mind conflict while the feelers who seek consensus and popular opinion get into a herd mentality (see: The herd mentality (Sock Puppetry) of the "Terri is guilty" crowd )
So the feelers will always consider Terri Horman guilty because they feel she is and felt that way from the beginning. NOTHING will change their opinion even if law enforcement comes out and says she could not be involved and was not involved. They will claim she had a vast conspiracy of people helping her but she is still somehow guilty because Kaine Horman said she is and so they feel she is.
The thinkers see there are no facts that support Terri Horman being guilty. The only thing that has pointed to her guilt is the ever changing confabulated lies of Kaine Horman - and nothing he has said is a FACT.
There will be no way the feelers and thinkers will agree because feelers feel they are right (no matter what the facts support) while thinkers go with the facts. A warning about feelers - they often try and claim they are thinkers (but thinkers never try and claim they are feelers)
1. http://www.infj.org/public/infjness.html
[feelers] can be quite gullible; many INFJs build up a protective armour over the years to protect against this and being "used" by others
Great article, right on target. Anyone with half a brain could see that Kaine Horman is out to get Terri any way he can due to what he feels are her 'indiscretions'. Perhaps Kaine hates her because in his mind he knows he didn't quite, 'measure up'.
ReplyDeleteDesiree OTOH is still sour over Kaine leaving her for another woman. From the finger pointing start this was apparent. Many excuse Desiree because her son is missing but if you look at it another way she is drowning in hatred and could use the energy to help locate her son.Enough of my ramblings and I repeat that when all is said and done that Terri sues their asses off for their petty accusations.
This is an example of a problem that extends well beyond the Kyron Horman case. Unfortunately, poor Kyron just got caught up in the "feeder" mindset of the American people.
ReplyDeleteOur country is in a crisis financially, with jobs that have disappeared and no end in sight to the government spending. I could spend hours detailing why I think we are headed to the path of doom, but suffice to say that most people don't take time to look beyond what is being spoonfed to them in the media, and we have seen that right here with poor Kyron.
It's so sad this poor child has had to suffer because of this.
Both thinkers and feelers might be surprised by the outcome of this case. Of course, none of us can KNOW what has happened, unless we are witnesses or perpetrators.
ReplyDeleteBy the way, moderator, you may be a thinker - but not a speller. I've been reading your blog regularly and suggest running your postings through spell check. (For example, it's innocence not 'innocense,' as you have spelt it.)
Interesting viewpoints are worth the read!
Good luck with your blog.
spelled the way they are for a reason. Next time I'll change them around so the misspelled words are the hidden words. Actually I like the "feelers" throwing a hissy fit for every misspelled word I type. They don't say anything when I called the foundation the Kaine Horman Foundation (instead of Kyron)several times but have to point out every word I misspell or when I get punctuation wrong. Just turned 45 and my eyes are going --- tough getting old.
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